How to Choose the Right Therapist

Written By Christine Forte

A Guide to Finding the Right Fit

Starting therapy is a brave step—but choosing the right therapist can feel overwhelming. With so many credentials, styles, and specialties out there, how do you know who’s right for you?

The truth is, therapy works best when you feel safe, understood, and connected. So rather than looking for the “perfect” therapist, focus on finding the right fit for you.


1. Know What You’re Looking For

Start by asking yourself:

  • What am I hoping to get from therapy?

  • Do I prefer a more structured approach (like CBT) or a more exploratory one (like psychodynamic)?

  • Would I feel more comfortable with someone of a particular gender, background, or lived experience?

There’s no wrong answer—what matters is what helps you feel at ease.


2. Understand Different Therapy Styles

Here’s a quick breakdown of common approaches:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Focuses on changing thought patterns and behaviors.

  • Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores past experiences and emotional patterns.

  • EMDR: Designed for processing trauma.

  • Humanistic/Person-Centered Therapy: Emphasizes empathy, authenticity, and personal growth.

  • Integrative or Eclectic Therapists: Combine methods based on your needs.

You don’t need to know all the ins and outs—just enough to notice what resonates.


3. Credentials Matter—but So Does Connection

Look for licensed professionals (like LMHCs, LCSWs, PsyDs, or PhDs), but remember: letters after a name don’t guarantee a strong therapeutic bond.

Most therapists offer a consultation—use that time to ask:

  • What’s your approach to therapy?

  • Have you worked with people who’ve experienced what I’m dealing with?

  • What does a typical session look like?

Then ask yourself: Do I feel comfortable opening up to this person?



4. Allow Room for Trial and Error

It’s okay if you don’t click with the first therapist you meet. That doesn’t mean therapy isn’t for you. It just means the fit wasn’t right.

Therapy is a relationship—and like any relationship, it takes time to build trust.



5. Trust Your Gut

The right therapist should make you feel:

  • Heard, not judged

  • Supported, not fixed

  • Challenged gently, not pushed too hard

If something feels off, it’s okay to keep looking.



Final Thought

Finding a therapist is a personal journey. Take your time, trust yourself, and remember—seeking support is a strength, not a weakness. The right therapist will help you feel more like yourself, not less.

 
Christine Forte
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